About me
Do you come here often?
I come here all the time, and here’s why….
My story
I was diagnosed with Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) in my 30’s, a mental health condition that distorts the way I see myself, and more specifically my face. With this diagnosis, I embarked on a soul-searching quest for self-acceptance and inner sexual power. Therapy and NLP played their part, but it was Burlesque dance that truly transformed me.
I danced Salsa and Latin in my late teens, became a Salsa teacher in my spare time, then fulfilled a lifelong dream of dancing ballet at 33, learning discipline, poise, and elegance. But, learning to striptease, baring it all in nothing more than sexy knickers and nipple tassels – that was when I came alive. Shedding my insecurities, I found my inner sexiness, I felt desirable, and embraced my true self.
Through dance, I realised the power of my sexual energy. I noticed that when I step into my inner striper, my burlesque bad girl, the naughty ballerina in me, I feel free, I feel seen by the world, and I am capable of amazing things.
BDD is a big part of my story and I’m not sure I’ll ever be completely free of it, but Burlesque and owning my sexual energy has made it so much harder to access the beliefs I held about my body, and that for me is one of the most liberating and empowering acts of love I have ever given myself.
But before Burlesque, I’ve always been interested in sex, sexual energy and dynamics.
Growing up with sexual curiosity
At the age of 13 I bought my first copy of the Karma Sutra. It’s no accident 20 years later, I became a qualified Yoga Teacher and trained in Tantra. Sex and Soul was already becoming my path as a teen.
By 15 I had read the famous “Joy of Sex”, and by 17, I was known at college as the “Sex Girl” – I was reading sex-related academic books in my Sociology and Psychology class, and people would seek me out for advice – think the Netflix series, Sex Education, but for Y2K!
How I work
So, when we work together, we are going to get soulful about sex. Oh yeah!
We are going to go deep and get in touch with what you really want in all areas of your life and of course, from sex and intimacy. But above and beyond using my 15 years+ coaching experience, expertise in all things sex, and NLP interventi0ns, part of our coaching experience together might also be to:
… look at how you are taking care of yourself, which is where my background in nutrition might help.
… work on how you move and feel in your body, which is where my expertise in dance, Yoga and personal image styling may help.
… focus on where you might need an emotional or energetic release, which is where my qualification in Reiki may help.
We’ll work together all the way through to co-create the path that is going to get you to where you want to be.
Aside from sex-life coaching, I’m a Workplace Culture Specialist and run a culture consultancy, curate the Rebel Work Podcast, am a TEDx and international speaker and am writing a book, focused on sexual energy and how it affects workplace culture.
I love, love, love working with individuals like you, to get your sex-life on track, but I also really enjoy educating workplaces to really understand how sexual energy is at play at work, so that we can create happy workplaces, that are safe, consensual, creative, connected and collaborative.
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